Because not doing it is harder.

My thoughts and emotions have been spiralling all over the place today. Today I read that an Australian couple chose to use a Thai surrogate to birth their baby conceived during IVF.  The surrogate was actually carrying twins, a boy and a girl and four months into the pregnancy, it was discovered that the baby boy had Down syndrome.  The Australian couple asked the surrogate to terminate the pregnancy but she refused.  After the twins were born the couple took the girl home to Australia leaving the boy behind with the surrogate.

Compounding the whole situation is the fact that the baby has a congenital heart defect.  Around half of all babies born with Down syndrome have a heart defect.  It is quite common and, in Australia, it is quite easy to fix.  The surgery, while major, is considered routine here with extremely good outcomes. 
In Thailand however, this surrogate is unable to afford the operation. A vulnerable woman tempted by a dodgy surrogate agent to make some money to pay off debt, is now left with a child that is not hers, a child she had no plan to raise without the resources to provide for him.  Without the operation, the baby will most likely die.  
There are so many horrendous issues surrounding this story not least of which is the practice of using impoverished and exploited women to birth a baby on the cheap… 
Telling the surrogate to abort the “unwanted” baby against her own religious and moral beliefs…
A dodgy surrogate agent refusing to pay the surrogate for the baby the couple didn’t take home…
The list of aspects to this story that breaks my heart goes on and on but the one part of this shitstorm that hits me the hardest is this…
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