Happy Birthday little Blog!

A year ago this week, I started something I never believed I was capable of doing. I started compiling all my thoughts about my pregnancy, birth and first year with Wade and I started blogging. My aim was to speak to other families who may be in a similar position to us and tell them everything. I wanted to show that something can rip your world apart and make you question everything you know and still be positive and joyous. That in the midst of swirling, competing emotions, a path emerges and while it may not be the path you intended to take, there’s no reason why you can’t plant a few bluebells and enjoy the walk.

It was important to me that I didn’t just end up preaching to the choir about Down syndrome too. I wanted to speak to people who had no experience of Down syndrome and show them that life is not like they imagine it is from the outdated stereotypes they may be familiar with. I wanted to throw the door open on my world so that no one had to creep around the issue or feel uncomfortable about talking about Down syndrome. I wanted people to think about and forget about Down syndrome at the same time when they thought of us.

Wade "on the phone"

Wade “on the phone”

I remember the week I launched the blog. I had decided to write my whole pregnancy story in 6 parts and publish them together before telling anyone about it. Two days after posting the first few posts, I received my first comment…. from a complete stranger on the other side of the world before anyone knew I was even writing this thing! It blew my mind that in the endless sea of blog posts on the Internet, someone had stumbled across little old me! Continue reading

Reclaiming Possibility

March 21 is World Down Syndrome Day and, like over 2 million people and counting, I had the pleasure of seeing the beautiful “Dear Future Mom” video released to celebrate the day. It made me bawl like a baby to see the pride and unmistakable joy that exists between mother and child.

I love this video for its simple message to future mums. To celebrate this day, I have a message for future parents too. Mine is about embracing possibility and making the most of a situation but unlike the succinct brevity that was employed by the video, I have continued in my “why use 5 words when 50 will do” fashion!

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Words and Worth

Is there ever a time when the word “retard” or “retarded” is used without being offensive? Short answer…No.

We can have a linguistic argument about using it in its strict definition when referring to the delayed growth or development of something, but let’s be honest here….

That’s not how it is used…you know it and I know it.

The word retard is used as an insult. It is used to explain how useless and worthless something is. It is used to put someone down, belittle and denigrate them. This word has been used as an insult so comprehensively and for so long that the phrase “mental retardation” has been removed from medical use. Using the word means comparing something of no worth to a person with an intellectual disability. It means insulting someone by comparing them to someone with an intellectual disability.

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