I was watching a mother hold her son on her lap the other day and I noticed her hands. She had her hands around his torso as she held him on her lap. It was casual and unexceptional. Just a mum holding her son on her lap.
Yet the sight of her hands doing this simple action brought up feelings from my own childhood. The memory of my mother’s hands when I was a child. When I was young, I remember looking at mum’s hands and thinking how beautiful and grown-up they looked. Long slender fingers with defined knuckles and I remember seeing the veins raised on the back of them. I remember how beautiful her wedding and engagement rings made her hand look. While I can recall how her hands looked to me as a child, I actually remember the feeling I felt more.
Safe and secure.
Belonging and Loved.
It’s been two months since I wrote Milestone Junkie, about my lack of patience when it comes to working on new milestones with Wade. In it, I wrote about how Wade learns some skills quickly and others take ages and how keeping a sane rational mind about it seems to be harder for me to learn than for him to walk!
Well, my little guy has been royally spoiling me these last two months. The day I described, when he learnt to clap has been a springboard for his communication, confidence and personality. (Not that he needed a boost in personality but the cuteness level has now gone into overdrive…).
The timing of these new milestones and a big surge in his comprehension of the world around him couldn’t have come at a better time. Recently I’ve been feeling a bit frustrated with his developmental delay. Rationally, I get it. I understand all the hows and whys surrounding it. I know he will learn and do new things but lately I’ve been getting impatient. Maybe it’s the winter blues, when getting out of the house and doing things seems too much like hard work…rugging up in 20 layers of clothes, taking hats and umbrellas and staring at the radar to see whether you are going to get caught in a downpour as you venture out of the house. I know we have both been a bit bored around the house and I consider taking him to a play centre or a park with play equipment and then it hits me… Continue reading